About Mingle Mayhem
Mingle Mayhem started because my ex-boyfriend and I broke up and neither of us wanted to download Hinge again.
Yes. I run a dating company with my ex-boyfriend.
The apps felt endless. The events felt awkward. Everyone in the room would be wildly accomplished, emotionally competent adults, and somehow still stuck in formats that felt inefficient and performative. It wasn’t that the people were wrong. It was the structure.
So we did what any slightly stubborn, data-obsessed adults would do: we filled a room with the kind of people we’d actually want to date.
Was it a little selfish? Of course.
But it was also intentional.
We weren’t just hosting a party. We were testing a hypothesis.
What wasn’t working in modern dating? Where were people getting stuck? What happened if we removed number-grabbing? What if we built in movement so no one felt trapped? What if we made expectations explicit instead of awkwardly implied?
I’m a scientist by day. I care about patterns. I care about feedback. I care about designing systems that produce better outcomes. So we paid attention before, during, and especially after the event.
It was supposed to be a one-off.
Instead, people kept reaching out. Follow-ups happened. Relationships started forming – it was honestly overwhelming at first!
So we kept going, and here we are 2 years later.
People always ask me if it works, and I have dozens of success stories – most notably my own. The man who would later become my fiancé was at that very first event.
What We’re Building
What started as a slightly selfish experiment has grown into a hyper-local community across Boston, Cambridge, and Somerville.
Mingle Mayhem now includes thoughtfully structured events, a curated dating pool, and boutique matchmaking for people who are serious about partnership and protective of their time.
At its core, this work is about design.
Dating apps optimize for volume. Many events optimize for novelty. We optimize for alignment.
We believe:
- Alignment sustains what chemistry starts
- Emotional readiness matters more than flash
- Clear structure reduces social friction
- Community increases compatibility
- And dating should feel human, not transactional
I’ve now hosted hundreds of singles and studied what actually leads to second dates, follow-ups, and long-term partnerships. Patterns emerge when you pay attention. Environments matter more than we think.
Mingle Mayhem exists to create rooms and introductions that reflect the quality of the people inside them.
Smart, emotionally ready adults deserve dating environments that respect their time and increase their odds.
That’s what we’re building.